Okay, so, I’ve been meaning to jot down some thoughts about this whole gay relationship thing. It’s been quite a journey, you know? And I figured, why not share what I’ve learned along the way? Might help someone out there, who knows.
First off, I started by just, you know, living it. Dating, meeting people, the whole shebang. It wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies, trust me. There were some real duds in there. But each experience, good or bad, was like a lesson learned. I paid attention to what worked, what didn’t, what I liked, what I absolutely couldn’t stand.
- Talk, talk, talk: I can’t stress this enough. We started making it a point to just talk about everything. What we wanted, what we expected, what was bugging us. It wasn’t always easy, but it made a huge difference. No more guessing games.
- Show you care, every day: It’s the little things, right? A text to say “thinking of you,” a small gift just because, helping out with chores without being asked. It all adds up. I tried to do something, anything, each day to show him I cared.
- Date night, regular like: We started this 2-2-2 rule thing. Every two weeks, we go out on a date. Could be fancy, could be just a walk in the park. Every two months, a weekend trip. And every two years, a big vacation. It’s been great for keeping things fresh.
- Keep some space apart: Yeah, this one’s tough, especially in the beginning when you’re all googly-eyed. But we found that having our own hobbies, our own friends, it actually made us stronger as a couple. We had more to talk about, and it kept things interesting.
- Being out, but not too out: We live in a small town, and it’s not exactly super open-minded. So, we kind of keep the PDA to a minimum. No making out in the grocery store, you know? It’s a bit of a bummer, but it’s just easier that way.
We tried different things. We argued, we laughed, we cried a few times. We made mistakes, and we learned from them. This one time, we decided to try an open relationship. Big mistake. Huge. It just wasn’t for us. But, hey, we figured it out.
What I Really Learned
But the biggest thing, the thing that really hit me, was that it’s just like any other relationship. You gotta put in the work. You gotta communicate. You gotta be willing to compromise. And you gotta be patient. You know like the 2-2-2 rule and the small things. But it is really hard to keep our love low profile. There’s a lot of pressure to keep things on the down-low. You feel like you’re hiding a part of yourself, and that can be tough, mentally. But we talked it through. And We were patient for each other. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. We’re still figuring things out, day by day. But we’re doing it together, and that’s what matters. We love each other, and that’s the bottom line.
So, yeah, that’s my two cents on gay relationships. Hope it’s helpful to someone. It’s a journey, for sure, but it can be a pretty amazing one if you’re willing to put in the effort.
