Well, let me tell ya somethin’ ’bout this “assume sex” thing. Folks get all hush-hush about it, but it’s just part of life, ya know? Like breathin’ or eatin’ corn on the cob.
What is this “assume sex” anyways? I ain’t no fancy scholar, but from what I gather, it’s kinda like when you think you know what’s what in the bedroom, or anywhere else for that matter, without actually askin’. It’s like assumin’ your man wants grits for breakfast every mornin’ just ’cause he ate ’em once and didn’t complain.
- It can be about what you think sex should be like. Maybe you saw somethin’ in a movie or heard your friends jabberin’, and now you think that’s how it’s gotta be. But let me tell ya, everybody’s different, like snowflakes or chickens in a coop. What works for one might not work for another.
- It can be about what you think your partner wants. You might be thinkin’ they like this or that, but you ain’t a mind reader, are ya? It’s like tryin’ to guess how many beans are in a jar. You might get close, but you ain’t gonna be spot-on unless you actually count ’em.
- It can even be about what you think you want yourself! Sometimes you get caught up in what you think you should want, instead of payin’ attention to what your body and your heart are tellin’ ya. It’s like wearin’ shoes that are too tight just ’cause they look nice. Your feet gonna be hurtin’ somethin’ awful before long.
Now, why is this “assume sex” such a big deal? Well, ’cause it can mess things up somethin’ fierce. If you’re just assumin’ stuff, you ain’t really connectin’ with your partner, or even with yourself. It’s like tryin’ to have a conversation with someone who’s speakin’ a different language. You might be makin’ noises at each other, but ain’t nobody really understandin’ nothin’.
And when you ain’t understandin’ each other, that’s when things go south. People get disappointed, hurt, and frustrated. It’s like plantin’ seeds and then forgettin’ to water ’em. Nothin’ good’s gonna grow that way. You gotta talk to each other, gotta be open and honest about what you want and what you don’t want. It ain’t always easy, mind you. Sometimes it’s like tryin’ to herd cats, but it’s worth it in the end.
So, what can you do instead of assumin’? Well, the answer’s as plain as the nose on your face: talk to each other! Ask questions! Don’t be afraid to say what you’re thinkin’ and feelin’, even if it feels a little awkward. It’s better to be a little awkward than to be miserable, ain’t it?
And remember, healthy sex ain’t just about the mechanics of it all. It’s about respect, and trust, and communication. It’s about feeling safe and comfortable and knowing that your partner cares about what you want and need. It ain’t about forcing anything or doing anything you don’t wanna do. It’s about findin’ somethin’ that works for both of ya, somethin’ that makes ya both feel good, like a warm fire on a cold night.
Now, some folks might get the wrong idea about what healthy sex even is. They might think it’s all about wild fantasies like them “threesomes” or somethin’ you see on them picture shows. And hey, if that’s your cup of tea, and everyone’s on board, then more power to ya. But for most folks, it ain’t about that fancy stuff. It’s about connection, plain and simple. It’s about sharin’ yourself with someone and feelin’ close to ’em. It’s like two pieces of a quilt, fittin’ together just right.
And this ain’t just about what happens in the bedroom, either. It’s about how you treat each other outside of it too. It’s about respectin’ each other’s boundaries, listenin’ to each other’s concerns, and bein’ there for each other through thick and thin. It’s like havin’ a good partner in a square dance; you gotta work together and follow each other’s lead, or you gonna end up stompin’ on each other’s toes.
So, next time you find yourself assumin’ somethin’ about sex, stop yourself right there. Take a deep breath, and have a conversation. It might be a little uncomfortable at first, but it’ll be worth it in the long run. ‘Cause when you stop assumin’ and start communicatin’, that’s when you can really start to build somethin’ special, somethin’ that’ll last a lifetime, like a good ol’ cast iron skillet.
Remember, there ain’t no shame in talkin’ about sex. It’s a natural part of life, and it’s somethin’ we should all be able to discuss openly and honestly. Don’t let nobody tell you otherwise. And don’t go assumin’ nothin’ neither. Just talk to each other. It’s that simple.
And if you do find you are struggling in this department, there are plenty of resources available. Many folks get education about this sort of thing, especially the younger generation. So if talking to your partner is tough, maybe talking to a professional can help give you the words. It’s like getting help fixing a tractor when you don’t know where to start – sometimes you need an expert.
