Okay, so, I’ve been trying to figure out this whole “getting my husband on my side” thing. It’s not like we’re fighting all the time, but sometimes I just feel like we’re not on the same page, you know?
So, first, I started really listening to him. Like, actually listening. Not just waiting for my turn to talk. I tried to put my phone down, look him in the eyes, and really hear what he’s saying. Even if it’s about something I don’t really care about, like his fantasy football league or whatever.
- I asked him questions about his day.
- I nodded along when he was talking.
- I tried not to interrupt him, even when I had something I really wanted to say.
Then, I started thinking about how to show him that I appreciate him. I mean, I do appreciate him, but I’m not always the best at showing it. So I started doing little things, like making his favorite coffee in the morning or picking up his favorite snack at the store. I also tried to compliment him more, even on little things.
- I left him little notes in his lunch bag.
- I thanked him for doing things around the house.
- I told him he looked nice before we went out.
It wasn’t always easy. Sometimes I would get frustrated and want to just give up. But I kept at it. And you know what? It actually started to work. We started having more real conversations. We laughed more. We felt more connected. Like, we are really starting to communicate now.
I even noticed he started doing the same for me. He listened to me more. He did little things to show me he cared. It was like a lightbulb went off. When I made an effort to get on his side, he made an effort to get on mine. And now, we are really on the same team. And, at last, I got what I wanted!
It’s still a work in progress, of course.
But I’m really happy with how things are going. It’s like we’re finally speaking the same language, you know? And it feels pretty darn good.
