Okay, so let’s talk about marriage and sex. It’s a topic that’s been on my mind lately, and I’ve been doing some experimenting to see how to keep things interesting in my own marriage. After all, we’ve been together for 25 years, and it’s easy for the spark to dull a bit, you know?
Getting Started
First, I started by reading up on the subject. There’s a ton of advice out there, but one thing that kept coming up was the importance of intimacy. Not just the physical kind, but the emotional kind too. So, I decided to focus on that. It’s kind of like the stages of a relationship, right? At the beginning, everything is new and exciting, but over time, life gets in the way. Careers, kids, all that stuff. It can really take a toll on your energy levels and your time together.
Taking Action
One of the things I came across was this “777” rule. Sounds kind of gimmicky, but I was willing to try anything. The idea is that you go on a date with your partner once a week, spend a night away together every seven weeks, and take a vacation alone together every seven months. Simple enough, right?
- Dates: We started small. At first, it was just dinner at a restaurant we used to love. Then, we started trying new things. A concert here, a museum there. We even took a cooking class together. We also started to talk more during these dates, no phones, just us.
- Nights Away: This was a bit trickier with our schedules, but we managed to book a weekend at a cozy little bed and breakfast a few hours away. No kids, no work, just us. We relaxed, we talked, and we reconnected in a way we hadn’t in a long time. We also took time to enjoy each other’s company, physically and emotionally, without any distractions.
- Vacations: We planned a week-long trip to a place we’d always wanted to visit. It was amazing. We explored new places, we tried new foods, and we just enjoyed being together without the pressures of everyday life. We made love in new and exciting places, which really added to the adventure.
The Results
Honestly, I was surprised at how well this worked. It wasn’t just about the sex, although that definitely improved. It was about rediscovering each other, remembering why we fell in love in the first place. We started communicating better, both in and out of the bedroom. We started laughing more, just enjoying each other’s company. Of course, it’s not always easy. There are still days when we’re tired or stressed. But now, we have these tools to help us reconnect. We have our weekly dates, our nights away, and our yearly vacations to look forward to. And we’ve learned to prioritize our relationship, to make time for each other no matter what. It’s been a real journey, and I’m happy to say that our marriage is stronger than ever. And the sex? Well, let’s just say it’s like we’re newlyweds all over again.
So, that’s my little experiment. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution, but it’s definitely worth a try if you’re looking to spice things up in your own marriage. Remember, it’s about more than just sex. It’s about intimacy, connection, and rediscovering the person you fell in love with. And who knows, you might just surprise yourself with how much fun you can have.
