Okay, here’s my story about trying rougher sex. It all started when my partner and I were feeling a bit adventurous and wanted to spice things up in the bedroom. We’d been together for a while, and things were getting a little too routine, you know? So, we decided to explore some new territory.
First, we talked about it. A lot. Not everyone is into the same stuff, so it was super important to figure out what we were both comfortable with. We made a list of things we wanted to try and things that were off-limits. This was key, because you don’t want any surprises in the middle of things. Communication is really necessary, and do not ignore it.
Next, I did a little research. I’m not going to lie, I was a little nervous. I read some articles and watched a few videos to get some ideas. Most of them said that rough sex is more about being wild and passionate than anything else. It’s not about hurting each other, but more about letting go and being a little more animalistic.
- Started slow: We didn’t jump straight into the deep end. We started with some light spanking and hair-pulling. It was a little awkward at first, but we got into it.
- Used safe words: This is important. We picked a word that we could use if things got too intense or if one of us wanted to stop. It made us both feel more secure knowing we had an out.
- Tried different positions: We experimented with some new positions that allowed for deeper penetration and a bit more intensity. The Anvil position, for example, was a game-changer. It’s all about the angle, and it definitely added to the roughness.
- Incorporated some toys: We added some handcuffs and a blindfold to the mix. It heightened the senses and made everything more exciting. I felt a little like a sub, but in a good way.
- Let loose: This was the hardest part for me. I’m not usually one to scream or be super loud during sex, but I tried to let go of my inhibitions. It actually felt really good to be a little more vocal and express myself in that way.
In the end, it was a really positive experience. We both enjoyed it way more than we thought we would. It added a new layer of excitement and intimacy to our relationship. We didn’t do it all the time, but it became something we’d occasionally do when we wanted to really turn up the heat.
The biggest takeaway for me was that rough sex doesn’t have to be scary or extreme. It’s about exploring your boundaries and finding what works for you and your partner. As long as you communicate and stay safe, it can be a really fun and fulfilling way to spice things up.
