Listen up, folks, you gotta know what you want from your man or your woman. It ain’t rocket science, but you gotta think about it.
My old man, bless his soul, he wasn’t perfect. But I knew what I was gettin’ into. And you should too. Don’t go expectin’ a pig to fly. That’s not how it works.
Know What You Want
First off, figure out what makes you tick. What do you need to be happy in a relationship? Not what does your sister need, or your best friend. What do YOU need? Write it down if you have to. Ain’t nothin’ wrong with a list.
- Do you need someone who’s always around, or are you okay with some alone time?
- Do you need someone who says “I love you” every five minutes?
- Do you need someone who will cook and clean or you can just eat fast food?
- Do you need someone who’s good with money, or are you gonna have separate bank accounts?
Figure out the big stuff and the little stuff. It all matters, honey. It all matters for your expectations from a relationship.
Be Real, Now
You ain’t gonna find a prince on a white horse. And you ain’t gonna find a perfect woman who does everything right. We all got flaws. Just like that old quilt your grandma made, we’re all stitched together with good parts and bad parts.
If you’re expectin’ your man to read your mind, you’re gonna be disappointed. Men ain’t mind readers. Most of us can’t read the mind.
And if you’re expectin’ your woman to never nag, well, good luck with that. We all need to do it from time to time. If we do not do that, you will never understand what we really want. So don’t expect too much about this.
So when you think about your expectations from a relationship, make sure they are based on real things. Not some fairy tale. It will make you unhappy.
Talk It Out
Once you know what you want, you gotta talk to your partner about it. Don’t just sit there like a bump on a log, hopin’ they’ll figure it out. That’s very important. You have to tell them what you want.
And don’t be scared to say what you mean. Speak your mind. But be nice about it. No need to start a war. No one likes that. It will not make your life better.
- Tell them what you need, and ask them what they need.
- Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t like that” or “That makes me happy”.
- Listen to what they have to say, even if you don’t like it.
- Don’t just say yes yes yes. If you don’t like it, say it.
If your expectations from a relationship involve open communication, you gotta practice what you preach. Even if it’s hard sometimes.
Don’t Try to Change ‘Em
You can’t go into a relationship thinkin’ you’re gonna change someone. You can’t turn a tomcat into a lapdog. It ain’t gonna happen. If you try to change your partner, it will end badly.
Accept them for who they are, warts and all. If you can’t do that, then maybe you’re not with the right person. I know it’s hard to find a good partner, but you have to keep trying.
Now, that don’t mean you gotta put up with bad behavior. If they’re treatin’ you bad, that’s a whole different story. But if they just have some quirks, learn to live with ’em. Or at least, try to.
Your expectations from a relationship should include accepting your partner for who they are, not who you want them to be. Remember that. Don’t try to change anyone. They will not change. You have to change yourself.
Give and Take
A relationship is a two-way street. It ain’t all about you, and it ain’t all about them. You gotta give a little, and you gotta take a little. We are human, not robots. We have to understand each other.
Sometimes you gotta do things you don’t wanna do, just to make them happy. And sometimes they gotta do things they don’t wanna do, just to make you happy. That’s just how it is.
If your expectations from a relationship are all about getting your way, you’re gonna be lonely. You have to learn to give. You will get something from it.
It Takes Work
Don’t think a good relationship just happens. It takes work. It’s like tendin’ a garden. You gotta water it, you gotta weed it, you gotta give it sunshine. There is a lot of work.
You gotta put in the time and effort. You gotta be patient. You gotta be understandin’. You need to try to understand them.
- Don’t expect things to be perfect all the time.
- Be willin’ to work through the rough patches.
- Don’t give up just because things get hard.
- Remember why you fell in love in the first place.
If your expectations from a relationship include a long and happy life together, then you gotta be willin’ to put in the work. A relationship is not easy, you know.
Don’t Settle for Less
Just because you want a relationship don’t mean you should settle for just anyone. You deserve to be happy. You deserve a good man. You deserve a good woman. Don’t ever settle for less, you will be unhappy.
If someone ain’t treatin’ you right, don’t be afraid to walk away. There are plenty of fish in the sea. So don’t worry about that.
Your expectations from a relationship should include being treated with respect and kindness. If you ain’t gettin’ that, then move on. It’s not easy. But you have to do that.
Well, there you have it. That’s my two cents on expectations from a relationship. Hope it helps. Remember, be yourself, be honest, and be willin’ to work at it. And don’t expect no miracles. You are not a princess. You just need to keep trying.
