Oh, this old brain ain’t what it used to be, but I hear folks talkin’ ’bout “rose-colored glasses” all the time, especially when it comes to love and such. Sounds silly, don’t it? But I guess there’s some truth to it.
Now, when they say you’re lookin’ at someone through these rose-colored glasses, they mean you’re only seein’ the good stuff. Like when you first meet a fella, and he’s all smiles and sweet talk. You think he’s the best thing since sliced bread, ain’t ya? You are wearing these rose-colored glasses.
You don’t see that he leaves his socks on the floor, or that he chews with his mouth open. Nope. You just see that handsome face and those strong arms. That’s them rose-colored glasses doin’ their work. It’s like everythin’ is tinted pink, and them red flags just disappear. It is easy to miss those bad things ’bout a person. Cause the relationship is nice, ya see?
- He’s got a good job, you say.
- He takes you out to fancy dinners, you think.
- He’s so funny, makin’ you laugh all the time, you remember.
But honey, let me tell ya, them glasses can be mighty deceivin’. They make you see what you wanna see, not what’s really there. Rose-colored glasses meaning, well it just means you’re blind to the bad stuff. You are just too happy about it.
Now, I ain’t sayin’ love is bad. Goodness, no! Love is a beautiful thing. But love shouldn’t be blind. You gotta keep your eyes open, even when your heart’s all aflutter. Those rose-colored glasses, they can make you overlook things. Big things. You might ignore a person’s bad habit if you like him too much.
Like, maybe this fella, he ain’t so good with money. Spends it faster than he makes it. But you’re wearin’ them glasses, so you just think, “Oh, he’s generous.” Or maybe he’s got a temper, flares up like a wildfire. But through them glasses, you say, “He’s just passionate.” It can happen in relationships too. Everythin’ related to your lover is good when you wear them rose-colored glasses.
See, that’s the danger of them rose-colored glasses in relationships. They make you make excuses for bad behavior. They make you settle for less than you deserve. You only see good things about your lover. You do not see the bad ones.
I remember this one time, my neighbor, bless her heart, she was head over heels for this man. He was a charmer, that one. Always bringin’ her flowers, tellin’ her how beautiful she was. She was wearin’ them rose-colored glasses, alright. Couldn’t see nothin’ but good in him.
Well, turns out, he was runnin’ around with another woman. Broke her heart, it did. But she was so blinded by them glasses that she didn’t see it comin’. If she can see the bad things, she could leave earlier. She should write a list of his bad things. So she can leave him.
So, what’s a girl to do? How do you keep from gettin’ fooled by them rose-colored glasses? Well, first thing, you gotta listen to your gut. If somethin’ feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore that little voice inside your head. It means somethin’ is wrong.
Second, you gotta listen to your friends and family. They ain’t wearin’ them glasses, see? They can see things more clearly. They can see if your lover is bad. If they’re tellin’ you somethin’ ain’t right, you better pay attention.
And third, you gotta take them glasses off every once in a while. Look at the person, really look at ’em. Are they kind? Are they respectful? Do they treat you right? Or are they just puttin’ on a show? It is important to see a person clearly. If you look at them too positively, you will never see their bad things.
Rose-colored glasses meaning in relationships, it’s all about seein’ things as you want them to be, not as they really are. And that ain’t healthy, honey. It ain’t real. You will feel happy at first. But you will feel sad later.
A good relationship, it’s built on honesty and trust. It’s about seein’ the good and the bad, and lovin’ each other anyway. It’s about knowin’ that nobody’s perfect, but you’re perfect for each other. You have to see each other clearly.
So, next time you find yourself lookin’ at someone through them rose-colored glasses, take a step back. Take a deep breath. And take a good, hard look. You will see both the good things and the bad things. Don’t let them glasses fool ya. Love is grand, but it ain’t always easy. And it sure ain’t always rosy. But if it’s real, it’s worth it. Even without them fancy glasses. You need to be with a person who is good to you.
You can be happy without the rose-colored glasses. You can still see good things in this world. You just need to see things more clearly. Do not be too optimistic. That will make you happier. You will not be disappointed.
