Getting Over Feeling Awkward
Okay, so sharing this feels a little weird, but here goes. Like lots of people, I got curious about trying new things in the bedroom, especially stuff outside the usual routine – you know, kinks. But where do you even start looking for ideas? Sounds stupid maybe, but I felt kinda stuck. So I decided to actually try three simple ways I’d heard about, just to see what happened. Spoiler: one totally surprised me.
Way 1: Staring Down the Search Engine
My first thought was obvious: just Google it, right? I sat at my desk, feeling slightly ridiculous, and typed in “sexual kink ideas.” Hit enter. Whoa. The amount of stuff that popped up was insane. Like, overwhelming doesn’t begin to cover it. I clicked a few links. Some were lists that seemed okay, basics like roleplay or light bondage. Others? Waaaay out there, stuff I didn’t even understand the name for. Honestly, it felt messy. One site wanted my credit card, noped out fast. Another started talking about complex power dynamics like it was physics class. Ended up closing the browser after like 15 minutes, head buzzing. Verdict: Like trying to drink from a firehose. Gets stuff in your face but mostly just leaves you wet and confused.
Way 2: Talking It Out (Sort Of)
Okay, plan B. Talking to my partner. Yeah, easier said than done. We were chilling on the couch watching some boring show, and I just blurted it out during a commercial: “So, weird question… ever thought about trying stuff? Like, kink stuff?” Silence. Then he kinda laughed nervously, “Uh, like what? Handcuffs?” Then I felt even more awkward. We mumbled something like “maybe someday” and went right back to staring at the TV without seeing it. The mood just… deflated. Verdict: Felt like trying to catch a greased pig. You might grab it for a second, but it’s likely to squeal and bolt. Needed a different angle.
Way 3: The Surprise Win – My Own Damn Journal
This one sounded almost too simple to be useful, but I was desperate. Grabbed this beat-up notebook I sometimes doodle in and just started writing down anything and everything that sparked even a tiny bit of curiosity or excitement:
- That scene in that movie where the woman wore that cool latex suit? Scribbled “tight shiny clothes?”
- Remembered getting tickled once and it kinda flipped a weird switch? Wrote “tickling?”
- Thought about playing truth or dare ages ago? Added “games/rules?”
- Even wrote down “trying food?” because… why not? Worst case, it stays on paper.
No pressure. No one else seeing it. Just me letting my brain wander onto the page. And here’s the kicker: the next morning I looked back. Seeing “tickling?” wasn’t just an idea; it suddenly connected to feeling vulnerable and laughed at in a fun way. “Games/rules?” reminded me how much I secretly like bossing people around sometimes. It sparked way more specific thoughts than any website ever did. That tight clothes thing? Realized I just liked how powerful it looked. Verdict: Shockingly effective! Like digging around in your own backyard and finding gold coins. Just writing freely let my brain make its own connections.
Bottom Line? Look In Your Own Weird Head First
So yeah, trying those three ways was way more telling than I expected. The endless online lists mostly confused me. Talking felt clumsy without concrete ideas. But sitting alone with my thoughts – just letting them spill out without judgement into that stupid journal – that’s where the good stuff was hiding. It turns out, your own brain is the weirdest, most creative kink idea generator out there. Who knew? Guess the simple stuff sometimes really is the answer. Now… gotta decide what to actually try from that list…
