Okay, let’s get real. Saw this article buzzing around – People Having Sex Why It Matters 3 Reasons for Happy Life. Honestly, sounded like bullshit at first glance. Like, really? That obvious? But the title stuck with me, so I figured, screw it, why not track my own damn life and see if there’s any fire behind that smoke.
Starting Simple: Just Paying Attention
Didn’t jump in setting alarms or anything wild. Just decided to actually pay attention. For a whole month. Normally, life’s just a blur of work, chores, staring at the damn screen. This time, every single day, I tried to quietly note in my head:
- Did my partner and I get busy? (Kinda awkward even thinking it!)
- If yes, rough timespan? (Quickie vs. lazy Sunday style)
- How did I feel afterwards? Like, truly feel, not just the obvious.
- And honestly, what was my overall mood like for that entire next day?
No fancy app, no spreadsheet initially. Just mental notes while brushing my teeth or driving. Key was consistency – making myself actually think about it daily.
Seeing Stuff Emerge: The “Huh” Moments
After about two weeks of this, I started scribbling little notes in an old notebook because patterns actually popped up. Not every single time, but noticeably often:
- Day After Feeling Lighter: On days following… well, some action… stuff just rolled off easier. Stuck in traffic? Annoying, sure, but didn’t ruin my whole damn morning like usual. Work problem? Felt way more like a puzzle to solve than a catastrophe. It was a tangible stress shield kind of thing.
- That Connection Glow: This surprised me more. It wasn’t just about feeling good physically. On those follow-up days, tiny interactions with my partner felt different. Less friction making coffee, less grumpy about whose turn it was to take the trash out. Just felt more… aligned, like we were rowing the same boat instead of fighting the paddles. A real “we’re good” vibe, even without talking about it.
- Plain Ol’ More Pep: Seriously. Mornings after? Felt less like dragging myself out of a bog. Had more physical energy for stupid stuff like finally cleaning the garage a bit, going for an extra walk with the dog, tackling the laundry pile without groaning loud enough for the neighbors to hear. This one felt the most simple, yet undeniable for me personally.
Important note: This wasn’t just any sex. Had to be the times where we were actually present, engaged, and willing. Not the “I’m tired, but fine let’s just do it” kind. Quality mattered, big time, for these effects.
What I Actually Learned (Not Just The Article Hype)
So, did this prove sex = happy life? Kinda reductive. Here’s what my month-long, amateur-hour tracking really showed me:
- It’s not about adding more like some chore. It’s about appreciating what it already does. It genuinely, measurably boosts my baseline in tangible ways.
- It acts like glue. Seriously cuts through the day-to-day crap and reinforces that feeling of being a team with my partner, especially during boring or stressful weeks.
- It’s a solid, physical stress-buster that gives back later. Better sleep? Yeah, sure. But that clearer head and extra energy the next day? That’s gold.
Biggest takeaway: It ain’t magic, but it absolutely adds layers of resilience and connection that spill over into everything else. Making it happen, especially when tired? Still tough. But now I know ignoring it isn’t neutral – it misses out on a real, natural life-upgrade. Definitely matters, just maybe in simpler, less headline-grabby ways than those articles scream.
