Alright let’s dig into how I actually did this boyfriend appreciation post thing everyone’s buzzing about. Woke up scrolling Instagram feeling kinda guilty seeing all those #RelationshipGoals posts. My dude ain’t exactly the flowers-and-poetry type, but man does he kill it fixing my busted laptop charger at midnight or remembering I hate mushrooms on pizza. Figured he deserved some public props, but writing one? Felt weird.
First Step Was Observing (AKA Stalking His Good Sides)
Grabbed my stupid notepad app and just started dumping stuff he actually does, not that cheesy “he gives me butterflies” crap. Think real life stuff:
- How he always texts “Leaving work now” so I know when to start dinner.
- The way he quietly walks my geriatric dog extra slow in the rain, knowing she hates puddles.
- Him rebuilding my entire resume website after I messed up the code trying to be fancy.
Realized most things weren’t grand gestures, just small, annoying-to-do stuff he handles without me asking. That became my angle.
Getting Over the Cringe Factor
Opening the Notes app felt easy. Typing “Hey everyone, my boyfriend is amazing…” nope. Insta-freeze. Too much pressure! Closed it fast. Grabbed my actual paper journal instead. Scribbled messy bullets, no filter:
- “&%#ing love that he actually listens when I rant about work stress instead of giving dumb advice.”
- “Doesn’t laugh when I cry watching animal rescue videos. Holds my hand instead. Weirdly sweet.”
- “Fixed mom’s iPad AGAIN. Didn’t even sigh.”
Felt less like writing a speech and more like just noting stuff down. Way less cringe on paper.
Building the Actual Post Brick by Brick
Copied the messy journal scraps back into my phone. Started arranging:
- Simple Intro: “Not usually my thing, but Steve deserves major credit for…” (Plain English, no poetry).
- The Specific Stuff: Listed 3 things directly from my scribbles. Kept them short: “For always patiently untangling my necklaces even though he thinks I have way too many.”
- Highlighted Effort: Added why it mattered: “It’s the little daily things that make life smoother, not just big dates.”
- No Fake Stuff: Didn’t say “perfect” or “best”. Said “I appreciate his thoughtfulness.” Truthful, not exaggerated.
- Added a Crap Picture: Used a genuinely bad, funny selfie where he’s making a goofy face washing the dishes. Real moment > staged photo.
Read it aloud. Sounded like me talking, not some greeting card. Good.
Hitting Post & The Aftermath
Almost chickened out. Deleted and retyped the caption three times. Took a deep breath and just tapped “Share”. Immediately threw my phone across the couch. Mild panic.
He saw it maybe an hour later. Texted me: “Lol that pic is awful. You really wrote that?” Followed by: “…the necklace thing isn’t that big a deal tho.” (Classic dude deflection). Then a quiet “Thanks babe. Means a lot.” Later that night, he offered to cook dinner unprompted. Mission success. He felt seen for real stuff.
What Actually Worked (For Real)
Looking back:
- Start Small & Specific: Forget poetic declarations. His “always takes the garbage out without being asked” beats vague “he’s supportive.”
- Write Ugly First: Paper/journal > phone. Gets the guard down.
- Show His Character: Did he make you laugh during a crappy day? Did he handle something annoying gracefully? That’s the gold.
- Embrace Imperfection: Awkward selfie > perfect couple pic. Adds honesty.
- Focus on YOU Appreciating: It’s your observation of his actions, not performance art.
Didn’t make him a superhero. Just showed him I notice the real, good stuff he already does. Took effort to not be corny, but his quiet “Thanks” was worth the initial awkwardness. Give it a shot. Ditch the fluff.
