So here’s the thing – I’d been struggling with finishing too fast for like, years. Felt like I had zero control, which sucked during sex and made me avoid relationships. Tried all the basic crap: numbing sprays (made things feel weird), special condoms (total rip-off), even drinking before doing it (just gave me headaches). Nothing worked long-term.
My Turning Point
Finally got fed up and hit the internet hard – not just random forums, but actual medical sites and studies. Found a pattern: everyone kept saying pelvic floor muscles matter way more than I thought. Made sense – mine always felt tense.
The Routine I Actually Stuck To
Started simple every morning:
- Lay flat on my back, knees bent like at the doctor’s office.
- Pretended I was stopping my pee mid-stream – squeezed those muscles for 3 seconds.
- Released COMPLETELY – this part’s crucial, can’t half-ass it.
- Repeated 20 times while brushing my teeth.
Added this during solo sessions:
- When feeling close to finishing, stopped completely and SQUEEZED HARD for 10 seconds.
- Waited until the urge totally faded before continuing.
- Did this pause-squeeze at least 3 times every time.
Real Talk About Making It Work
First week felt stupid and awkward. Muscle control was pathetic – like trying to wiggle my ears. But after 2 weeks? Could actually feel those muscles firing properly. Stopping became easier around week 3 – before that, I still accidentally finished early a couple times. Didn’t beat myself up, just reset and tried again later.
Where I’m At Now
Took about 8 weeks to really lock it down. Pelvic stuff feels stronger when I cough or laugh now. Sex isn’t a race anymore – actually enjoyable rather than stressful. Wife noticed the difference big time, which is honestly the best payoff. Still do the squeezes in the shower occasionally to maintain. Zero pills, zero weird products – just me controlling my own damn body.
