Alright so this one’s personal but I believe in sharing honest stuff. Started messing around with self-pleasure when I was way younger, kinda clumsy back then, no idea what I was doing. Felt awkward even thinking about it.
Early Fumbling Phase
Honestly? First tries were horrible. Too rough, way too fast. Rushed it like finishing homework. Got nowhere, just frustration.
Slowing Things Down
Changed up big time about a year ago. Watched some videos (not those kind, real educational ones). Read forums where people actually talked normal. Biggest thing I learned: patience ain’t optional.
My new setup:
- Quiet Time: Wait til everyone’s asleep.
- Comfort Zone: Lock my door, dim the lights.
- Lube! Seriously. Game changer.
- No Clock Watching: Set aside real time.
Trying Different Tricks
Experimented loads:
Basic Slow Motion: Used just fingertips at first, super light circles around the head. Felt weirdly intense after rushing for years. Took like 15 minutes just exploring sensitivity. Kinda meditative?
Pressure Play: Tested different grips – loose fist around the shaft. Not stroking up and down fast like before. More like… pulsing pressure? Like squeezing a stress ball rhythmically. Slower = more feeling rushing through me. Shocked how long I held off finishing.
Focusing Elsewhere: Actually touched other spots too. Chest, inner thighs, even neck. Whole body involved instead of just one spot. Felt fuller somehow? Like unwinding every muscle slowly.
What Actually Stuck
Turns out I like combining techniques:
- Start stupid slow – barely touching for first few minutes
- Build gradually using that pulsing grip around the middle
- Switch to light circles just under the head when close
- Always pause when it gets too much – delays everything wonderfully
And breathing! Never thought it mattered. Holding breath tenses everything. Deep breaths? Unlocks crazy sensations.
Failures Too
Not all gold though. Tried counting strokes – felt like math homework. Distracted me totally. Also tried some ridiculous position I saw online – nearly pulled a muscle. Stick with what feels natural, seriously.
Now? Way Different
Used to take 2 minutes, full of guilt. Now? Set aside 30-40 minutes after shower. Put on chill music sometimes. Explore without rushing. Feels like actual stress relief instead of a dirty secret. Still experimenting sometimes, but this basic rhythm? Life changing.
