Alright, let’s talk about this whole “sex playlist” endeavor. It wasn’t some grand plan, more like a slow realization that just hitting shuffle on my phone was a recipe for disaster. You know, one minute it’s smooth, the next it’s your cousin’s wedding DJ mix. Not exactly setting the mood, right?

The Brain Dump Phase – What Even Goes In?
So, I actually sat down. Opened up my usual music app. Stared at a blank playlist. What was the goal here? It’s not just “slow songs.” That’s boring. It needed a vibe, a flow. I started just throwing stuff in there. Anything that remotely felt like it could work. My first attempt was a total mess, honestly. Some R&B, a bit of that moody indie stuff, I think there was even a weird electronic track that, in hindsight, was a terrible idea.
It quickly became obvious this wasn’t just a 10-minute job. I had songs that were too fast, too sad, or the lyrics, man, the lyrics were sometimes wildly off. You gotta actually listen to what they’re saying!
Actually Building It – Trial and Error, Mostly Error
This is where I really got into it. I started listening properly. Not just the first 30 seconds. The whole track. And I started thinking about the order. You can’t just have random songs. It needs to build, maybe dip a little, then build again. I felt like a terrible DJ for a very, very specific gig.
Things I learned the hard way:
- Too many vocals can be distracting. Instrumentals? Suddenly very appealing.
- Tempo is key. Had to ditch a few bangers that I loved but just killed the flow.
- Some “classic” sexy songs are classics for a reason. Don’t overthink it.
- Discovered some new artists by just digging around related tracks. That was cool.
I spent hours, no joke, dragging songs around. Listening to how one ended and the next began. Does it jar you? Or does it feel smooth? I cut a lot of tracks. More than I added, probably. My recycle bin was full of ‘almosts’ and ‘not quites’.

The “Does it Even Work?” Test
Then comes the, uh, practical application. You gotta see if it actually works in the real world, not just in your headphones while you’re messing with the order. There were definitely a few moments where a song came on and it was like, “Nope. Definitely not.” Back to the drawing board. Tweak the order. Swap something out.
It’s still not perfect, to be honest. It’s kind of a living document. I’ll hear a new song and think, “Ooh, that could fit.” Or an old one starts to feel a bit tired. So, I swap things in and out. But having a solid foundation? Man, it makes a difference. No more awkward fumbling with the phone mid-moment. That alone was worth the effort. It just… works. And when it works, it’s pretty great.