You know, sometimes you just get into a groove with your partner, and things are good, but then you kinda wonder, “Is there more? Or just, y’know, different?” We’d been talking a bit, just idly, about shaking things up, not in a bad way, just for the sake of trying something new. And well, the whole “from the back” thing came up. It’s one of those positions you hear about all the time, see in movies, whatever. So we figured, why not actually give it a proper go?
Getting Started with It
Okay, so first off, diving right in was a bit… optimistic. Our initial attempts were, let’s be honest, a little awkward. It wasn’t like in the movies where everyone just magically knows what to do. We were fumbling around, laughing a lot, which actually helped. “Am I doing this right?” and “Wait, my knee!” were common phrases. It took a bit to figure out the angles and comfort for both of us. We quickly learned that just going for it without a bit of prep wasn’t the smoothest path.
Here’s what we sort of stumbled through and figured out:
- Pillows are your best friend. Seriously. A pillow under the hips, or for chest support, made a huge difference. Suddenly, things felt a bit more aligned and way more comfortable. We experimented with different numbers and placements.
- Communication is super important. This isn’t one where you can easily see each other’s faces, so talking became even more crucial. Little check-ins like, “Is this good?” or “How about this?” made sure we were both on the same page and enjoying it, rather than just enduring it.
- Finding the right surface matters. The bed was okay, but sometimes a firmer surface, or even just changing the setup on the bed, like moving towards the edge or using more support, changed the experience. We even tried different spots just to see.
- Pace yourself. It’s easy to get carried away, but finding a rhythm that works for both people, especially with the different sensations this position offers, was key. It’s not always about speed.
What We Actually Thought About It
So, after a few tries and a bit of tweaking, we got the hang of it, more or less. And we definitely had some thoughts.
On the plus side: There’s a different kind of depth, for sure. My partner mentioned that a lot. And the view, well, that’s a whole other conversation, but it can be pretty arousing for the person behind. It also freed up hands, which opened up other possibilities for, y’know, touching and caressing. That was a big plus for connection, even without the face-to-face part.
The downsides, though: It can feel a bit impersonal sometimes if you’re not actively making an effort to connect in other ways. We missed the eye contact and kissing that you get with other positions. Also, comfort can still be an issue if you’re not careful. Knees can get sore, wrists too, depending on how you’re supporting yourselves. We definitely had to be mindful of that and switch things up if it got uncomfortable. It’s not really a “lazy” position, at least not if you want it to be good for both.
Ultimately, it wasn’t like some earth-shattering revelation that changed everything. But it did add a nice bit of variety. We learned that, like with a lot of things in a relationship, it’s less about the specific act and more about the exploration together, the communication, and being willing to laugh when things get a bit silly. It wasn’t a perfect fit for every single time, but it definitely found its place in our repertoire. It’s all about finding what works for you as a couple, right? And just trying things out, talking about it, that’s half the fun, I reckon.
