Alright, so you’re wondering about fun things to try sexually, eh? It’s a good question, one I’ve mulled over myself quite a bit over the years. My take? It’s not like picking from a takeout menu, or at least, it shouldn’t be if you want it to be genuinely fun and not just… an activity.
I’ve seen folks, and heck, I’ve been there myself, thinking that “fun” means you gotta go all out with wild, acrobatic stuff you saw somewhere, or buy a load of gear. That’s the highlight reel, I guess. But like with most things, the real good stuff is often simpler, and a lot more personal.
Figuring Out What “Fun” Even Means
The very first thing I actually did, years back when things felt like they were settling into a bit of a comfy, but maybe too predictable, groove, wasn’t to rush out and buy a Kama Sutra. Nope. We actually just talked. Sounds dead boring, I know, but hear me out. We sat down, no pressure, and just chatted about what “fun” or “exciting” might even look like for each of us. What were we curious about? What were our boundaries? What made us laugh? What made us feel good, really good?
It was a bit awkward at first, I won’t lie. But pushing through that initial shyness was key. This wasn’t about demands; it was about sharing. You’d be surprised what comes up when you actually make space for that kind of chat. It’s like finally admitting you don’t really like that one restaurant everyone else raves about.
Starting Small, Keeping it Real
Once we had some ideas, we didn’t try to do everything at once. That’s a recipe for disaster, or at least, a lot of forced awkwardness. We decided to try small things. Sometimes it was as simple as changing the setting, the time of day, or just focusing more on the build-up rather than the main event, so to speak.
We agreed on a crucial rule: anything new was an experiment. If it was great, awesome. If it was a bit of a flop, or even just silly, we’d laugh it off. No blame, no hurt feelings. This took a massive weight off. It wasn’t a performance. This was a game-changer. Suddenly, “trying things” felt light, not like another chore on the to-do list.
- We played around with heightening senses. Something as simple as a soft blindfold, not for anything extreme, but just to make touch and sound more intense. It’s amazing how different things feel when one sense is taken away.
- We experimented with different roles. Sometimes one person would take the lead entirely in planning a “date night in,” surprise element included. Other times, it was about being more vocal, or even less vocal and focusing on non-verbal cues.
- We introduced novelty slowly. Maybe a new massage oil, or reading something a bit racy out loud. The point wasn’t the object or the specific act itself, but the shared experience of trying something new together.
What I Learned in the Process
Through all this, what I really realized is that the “fun things” aren’t a fixed list. They change. They evolve as you and your partner evolve. What was thrilling five years ago might be replaced by something new, or you might rediscover an old favorite with a new twist.
The most important “thing to try,” in my book, is to cultivate an attitude of curiosity, communication, and a willingness to be a little vulnerable. And a sense of humor! God, you need a sense of humor. Some experiments will be duds, and that’s fine. Laugh about it.
So, if you’re looking for “fun things,” my advice is to start by talking. Really talk. Then, explore together, slowly, and without pressure. The fun isn’t just in the “thing” itself, but in the shared discovery and the connection it builds. That’s been my practice, anyway, and it’s served me pretty well. It’s less about a script and more about improvisation, based on what feels good for everyone involved. That’s where the real magic happens, I reckon.
