Alright, so, let me lay it all out there. It happened. The dreaded soft-during-sex situation. I’m not gonna sugarcoat it, it sucked. Here’s the breakdown of what went down and what I think caused it.
The Setup: I was seeing this girl, Sarah, for a few weeks. Things were going pretty well, good vibes, good conversation, you know the drill. We were at my place, had a few drinks, and things started getting hot and heavy. Everything was going smoothly, making out, touching, the usual build-up.
The Problem: Then, BAM! I went from rock hard to…well, not. Mid-way through. Like a balloon deflating. It was mortifying. I tried to play it cool, but I knew she noticed. I could feel the tension shift in the room.
The Aftermath: We stopped. She was cool about it, said it happens, no big deal. But I could tell she was a little thrown off. We cuddled for a bit, but the mood was gone. I walked her to her car, feeling like a total loser.
The Analysis: So, what the hell happened? I spent the next few days trying to figure it out. Here’s what I came up with:
- Anxiety: Honestly, I think I was overthinking it. I was trying too hard to impress her, to make sure she was having a good time. All that pressure probably messed with my head and my body. I put too much pressure on myself to perform.
- Too Much Booze: Yeah, the drinks probably didn’t help. I wasn’t hammered, but I definitely wasn’t sober either. Alcohol can mess with your, you know, equipment.
- Stress: Work had been crazy hectic that week. I was stressed about deadlines, dealing with difficult clients, the whole shebang. Stress is a boner killer, plain and simple.
- Lack of Sleep: I hadn’t been sleeping well either. Tossing and turning, waking up in the middle of the night. Lack of sleep can screw with your hormones and your energy levels.
The Solution (Attempted): So, I decided to take some action. I couldn’t let this happen again. Here’s what I did:
- Relaxation Techniques: I started practicing some deep breathing exercises and meditation. Just trying to calm my nerves and clear my head.
- Limit Alcohol: Okay, I didn’t completely cut it out, but I definitely scaled back. One drink max before things get spicy.
- Prioritize Sleep: I made a conscious effort to get more sleep. Earlier bedtime, no phone in bed, the whole routine.
- Talked to Someone: I even talked to a buddy about it. Just to get it off my chest. He reassured me that it happens to everyone and not to sweat it.
The Next Time: A few weeks later, I was with another girl. I made sure to be more relaxed, less pressure. Focused on enjoying the moment, not on performing. And guess what? It worked! No soft incidents. Smooth sailing all the way.
The Takeaway: So, yeah, going soft during sex sucks. But it’s not the end of the world. It’s usually a mental thing, not a physical one. Relax, take care of yourself, and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. And maybe lay off the booze a little. That’s my story, hope it helps someone out there!
