Getting Started with Role Play
So, things between my partner and I felt like they were getting a bit… predictable. You know how it is. Same routine, night after night. We weren’t unhappy, not at all, but maybe just a little bored? We started talking about ways to mix it up a bit.
Someone, maybe a friend or something I read, mentioned role-playing. My first thought was, seriously? That sounds complicated and maybe a bit silly. Like something out of a bad movie. We talked about it, kinda laughing at first. Neither of us really knew where to start.
Figuring It Out
We decided, okay, let’s not go crazy buying costumes or writing scripts. Let’s keep it simple. What if we just pretended to be different people for a bit? We kicked around a few basic ideas:
- Strangers meeting for the first time.
- Maybe one of us is the boss, the other the employee (kept that one tame, mind you).
- Someone needing help, the other being the helper.
The key thing, we agreed, was no pressure. If it felt dumb, we’d just stop and laugh about it. That took a lot of the weirdness away right at the start. Communication was super important here. We had to know what the other person was comfortable with.
Giving It a Shot
The first time we tried, we picked the ‘strangers meeting at a bar’ idea. Except we were just in our living room. I went into the bedroom for a few minutes, came back out, and tried to act like I didn’t know my partner. It was awkward! We definitely broke character and laughed a few times. It felt forced.
But we stuck with it for a bit. Tried different tones of voice, asked questions we wouldn’t normally ask. Slowly, it started to feel a bit less like us and a bit more like… something else. It wasn’t some huge, dramatic transformation, but it was different.
We tried a couple of other simple scenarios over the next few weeks. Some worked better than others. The ‘teacher/student’ thing felt really weird for us, so we dropped that one quick. The ‘damsel in distress/hero’ was kinda fun for a laugh, mostly because it felt so over the top.
What We Found Out
It wasn’t really about the specific scenario, honestly. It was more about breaking the routine. Just acting a little differently, focusing on each other in a new way, that was the interesting part. It made us pay more attention, I think.
The main thing was just trying something new together and being okay if it felt a bit silly. It didn’t magically solve anything, but it did add a spark, made things less predictable. And talking about what we liked or didn’t like about it afterwards? That was actually pretty good for communication too. So yeah, didn’t need complex plots or anything, just a willingness to play around a bit and not take ourselves too seriously.
