Okay, so we decided to give these relationship intimacy exercises a whirl. Things weren’t bad, you know, but maybe felt a bit… routine? Like we were roommates sometimes. Saw something online about ways to reconnect, figured, why not? Couldn’t hurt, right?
Getting Started
First thing was actually talking about it. Felt kinda weird bringing it up. Like, “Hey, wanna do some… exercises… for our intimacy?” Sounds clinical or something. But we talked it through, decided to just try it without putting too much pressure on it. We blocked out some time, turned off the TV, put the phones away – that was maybe the hardest part!
We found a few simple ideas. Didn’t want anything too complicated or that required buying weird props or whatever. Just basic stuff focusing on connection.
Trying Things Out
One of the first things we tried was just sitting and looking at each other. No talking, just eye contact for like, a few minutes. Okay, gotta be honest, the first time was super awkward. I kept wanting to laugh or look away. Felt intense. But we stuck with it. After the initial weirdness, it actually felt kinda… grounding? Like seeing the person again, really seeing them.
Another thing we did was taking turns sharing things we appreciated about each other from that day. Simple stuff, nothing huge. Like “I appreciated you making coffee this morning” or “Thanks for listening when I was complaining about work.” At first, it felt a bit forced, like we were reading from a script. But saying it out loud, and hearing it, was different than just thinking it.
- We made sure it wasn’t just about big gestures.
- Focused on small, everyday things.
- Tried not to interrupt, just listen when the other person was sharing.
There was also this exercise about sharing something slightly vulnerable or a small worry. Not like, deep dark secrets immediately, but just opening up a little bit more than usual. That took some building up to, definitely didn’t jump straight into that one.
How It Went
Honestly? It wasn’t some magic fix that instantly made everything perfect. Some nights we tried, and it just felt goofy, and we ended up laughing, which was its own kind of connection, I guess. Other times, it genuinely felt like it opened up a little space for us to connect without the usual distractions.
The eye contact thing got less awkward over time. The appreciation sharing started feeling more natural. It kind of reminded us to actually notice the small things during the day, knowing we might share them later.
Did it work? Yeah, I think so. Not in a Hollywood movie kind of way. But it felt like we intentionally carved out time to focus just on us. It broke the routine. Sometimes it led to deeper conversations, sometimes it just made us feel a bit closer physically and emotionally afterwards. It was more about the practice, the act of doing it together, than hitting some specific goal.
We don’t do them like, every single night religiously now. But we pull them out sometimes, especially if we feel a bit disconnected. It’s like a little tool we have now. Worth trying? Yeah, I’d say so. Just gotta push past the initial cringe factor maybe.
