Okay, so, CNC in sex… Yeah, that’s a thing. Let me tell you how I got into it.
It all started with a curiosity, you know? I was reading some stuff online, just browsing, and stumbled across the term. “CNC”… It sounded intense. I did some digging, figured out it meant “consensual non-consent”. My first thought was “WTF?”, but then I started thinking about the power dynamics involved and the idea got stuck in my head.
So, I talked to my partner. I’m always upfront about my kinks. Communication is key, right? I explained what CNC was, the appeal for me, and stressed the “consensual” part. I emphasized that safewords were essential, and that we could stop at any point, no questions asked. Luckily, my partner was open-minded and willing to explore.
We started small. Role-playing scenarios where they were in control and I was “resisting”. Things like playfully tying me up and teasing me. It was hot, but it wasn’t quite “it”. I needed something more… raw, I guess.
Next, we upped the ante a bit. We tried a scene where they “kidnapped” me. Blinfolded, gagged (safely, of course), and taken to a different room in the house. The anticipation was insane! They started with some light bondage and verbal domination. It was a rush, but again, something was missing. I wanted to feel truly vulnerable, but in a controlled way.
The real breakthrough came when we incorporated impact play. They used a flogger on my ass while I was tied to the bed. The pain, combined with the humiliation and the feeling of being helpless, was electrifying. I moaned out my safeword a couple of times, just to test it, and they immediately stopped each time. That trust was crucial.
We’ve continued to explore CNC, and it’s become a regular part of our sex life. We’ve established clear boundaries and safewords. We always debrief afterwards to make sure we’re both comfortable with everything that happened. It’s not for everyone, obviously, but for us, it’s an incredibly intense and satisfying way to explore power dynamics and our own limits.
The biggest thing I learned is that CNC isn’t about actual non-consent. It’s about the illusion of it. It’s about the surrender, the vulnerability, and the trust. It’s about pushing boundaries in a safe and controlled environment. If you’re curious about it, do your research, communicate with your partner, and start slow. Most importantly, always prioritize safety and consent.
Now, let me tell you about this one time we tried…
