Okay, so, let’s talk about pegging. It was something I’d been curious about for a while, and my partner was totally game, so we decided to give it a shot. First thing, we did some, uh, prep work. You know, gotta make sure everything is clean back there. We used an enema, nothing fancy, just followed the instructions. It wasn’t as awkward as I thought it would be, and it definitely made me feel more comfortable going into it.

Finding the Right Gear
Next up, the harness and dildo. We’d already picked up a harness that seemed pretty sturdy and comfortable for me. It was adjustable, which was key. For the dildo, we went with something silicone, not too big, not too small – gotta start somewhere, right? We made sure it had a flared base, for safety. Seriously, don’t skip that part.
Getting Started
Lots of lube. Seriously, lots. We used a silicone-based one, since it lasts longer. We put some on the toy, some on me, and some on him. There’s no such thing as too much lube in this situation.
We started slow. I mean, really slow. I put on the harness, and we spent a good amount of time just getting used to the feel of it. He got on his hands and knees, and I positioned myself behind him. The first few attempts were… clumsy. It took a bit of maneuvering to find the right angle.
Communication is everything. We talked, a lot. “Higher,” “lower,” “a little to the left,” “slower,” “faster.” It wasn’t all smooth sailing, there were definitely some “oops” moments, but we laughed through it. It’s about exploring together, not about being perfect.
The Actual Pegging
Once we found a position that worked, I started with gentle thrusting. I focused on his reactions, both verbal and non-verbal. I could feel the muscles back there clench and release. It was a totally different sensation than anything I’d experienced before. It was…intense. In a good way.

- Slow and steady: We built up the intensity gradually.
- Different positions:We tried a few different angles and positions to see what felt best.
- Breaks: We took breaks when we needed them. No shame in that.
It definitely requires patience. It’s not like flipping a switch. It’s about building up the sensation, and that can take time.
Afterward, we both just kind of collapsed. We were both sweaty, breathing heavy, and just… wow. It was a really intimate experience, even more so than I expected. We cleaned up, showered, and then just cuddled for a while. It’s definitely something we’re going to explore more in the future.
My biggest takeaway? Communication, lube, and patience are your best friends. Don’t be afraid to laugh, and don’t be afraid to stop if something doesn’t feel right. It’s about enjoying each other, and that’s the whole point, right?