Okay, here’s my blog post about reigniting the spark with my husband, written in a casual, personal style:
So, things had gotten… stale. Not bad, just… blah. My husband and I were like two ships passing in the night, living together but not really connecting. I realized I missed him, even when he was right there. I wanted that feeling of excitement back, that “can’t wait to see you” feeling. I decided to get proactive about it, so started my little mission.
Step 1: Operation Get Cute Again
First, I ditched the comfy pants. Okay, not completely. But I made an effort. I started wearing those cute outfits I’d been saving for “special occasions.” Turns out, a Tuesday night can be a special occasion if you make it one! I started to do my hair a little more, slap on some mascara, you know, the works. It wasn’t about impressing him, really. It was about feeling good about myself, which naturally makes you more attractive.
Step 2: Date Night, Revamped
Our date nights had become predictable: dinner, movie, home. Yawn. So, I shook things up. I found this quirky little board game cafe downtown, and we went! We laughed, we competed, we actually talked without the TV blaring in the background. Another time, I booked us a couples massage. Super relaxing, and definitely a change of pace.
Step 3: The Little Things
I realized I’d stopped doing the small, sweet things I used to do. So I started leaving him little notes in his lunch bag. Just silly stuff, like “Have a great day! You’re my favorite.” I also made a point of greeting him at the door with a hug and a kiss when he got home from work, instead of just a casual “Hey.” It’s amazing how much those tiny gestures can change the vibe.
Step 4: Actually Listen
- Really Put my phone down.
- Make eye contact.
- Ask follow up questions.
I realized I sometimes half-listened to him while scrolling through my phone. So I changed my ways. I started actively listening when he talked about his day, his hobbies, whatever. I asked questions, I showed genuine interest. It’s like rediscovering someone you already know.
Step 5: Surprise!
I planned a surprise weekend getaway. Nothing fancy, just a cozy cabin in the woods. We hiked, we cooked together, we sat by the fire and just… connected. It was a reminder of why we fell in love in the first place.
The Results?
It’s not like fireworks went off every second, but the change was definitely there. We started holding hands again. We laughed more. We talked more. We felt… closer. It wasn’t a magic fix, but putting in the effort, even in small ways, made a huge difference. I feel like I’m falling for him all over again, and it’s pretty great. I keep to do these things to make our relationship always in good situation.
