Okay, so, this is kind of a weird one, but I figured I’d share because it’s been a thing for me and maybe it’ll help someone else out there. It’s about, uh, losing it when you’re trying to put on a condom. Yeah, that.
It started happening a few months back. Everything would be going great, super hot and heavy, and then… time for the condom. And bam. Like a balloon slowly deflating. Super frustrating, and honestly, pretty embarrassing.
First thing I did? Freaked out a little, obviously. I mean, I’m not that old. Started googling stuff, which, you know, is always a dangerous road. Lots of scary words popped up, but most of it just seemed like general anxiety or stress related issues.
So, I tried a few things. Here is a step by step run down.
My Experiment Log
- Step 1: Ruled out medical stuff.
Honestly just to calm myself down I checked everything and doctor said all was working as normal. I did this to ensure that I ruled out scary underlying problems.
- Step 2: Tried different condoms.
I figured maybe it was the brand I was using. Maybe too tight, or the material was weird, or I don’t know. So I bought, like, five different kinds. Thin ones, textured ones, even some flavored ones (which, by the way, don’t taste like much of anything). It was almost the same result no matter which one I used.
- Step 3: Talked to my partner.
This was the hardest part. Super awkward, but, you know, communication is key. Turns out, she was way more chill about it than I expected. She actually helped me with some of the experimenting. We tested different ways to put the condom on, trying to make it part of foreplay, rather than this big, mood-killing interruption.
- Step 4: Focused on the foreplay, like, really focused.
We spent way more time on everything before the condom. Like, seriously, a lot more time. This seemed to help. Getting things as heated as possible before the condom even came out of the wrapper seemed to make a difference.
- Step 5: Mind games.
This sounds silly, but I realized I was psyching myself out. I was so worried about losing it that it became a self-fulfilling prophecy. So, I tried to, like, not think about it. I focused on how good everything felt, on my partner, on just being in the moment. Distraction, basically.
So, what worked? Honestly, a combination of all of the above. The different condoms helped a little, the extra foreplay helped a lot, and the talking-to-my-partner thing was huge. The mind game stuff is still a work in progress, but it’s getting better.
It’s still not perfect, every time. I still have the occasional, uh, “deflation” issue. But it’s way less frequent, and way less stressful. It’s more of a minor annoyance now than a full-blown crisis. So, yeah, that’s my experience with the whole condom-induced-limpness thing. It’s a real thing, it sucks, but it’s definitely something you can work on.
