Okay, so the other day, I was thinking about what I really want in a boyfriend. Not just the usual stuff, but like, the real deal. So I decided to actually write it down. Like, make a proper list. Sounds kinda lame, I know, but it actually helped!
First, I grabbed my favorite notebook – the one with the cute cat on the cover – and a pen. Gotta have the right tools, right?
Getting Started My Ideal Boyfriend:
I started by just brainstorming. Literally anything that popped into my head, I wrote it down. Things like “kind,” “funny,” “shares my love of pizza” – you know, the essentials. I scribbled everything on some scrap paper with a pencil first. Get all the random thoughts out.
- Kind
- Funny
- Loves pizza (negotiable, maybe?)
- Good listener
- Adventurous
- Not afraid to be silly
Then I find my self Reviewing, I looked back at what I’d written and started to organize it. I grouped things together. Like, under “personality,” I put things like “kind,” “compassionate,” and “has a good sense of humor.” Then I had a section for “shared interests” – this is where the pizza thing went, along with my obsession with binge-watching bad reality TV.
After that, I try to Prioritizing, I realized some things were way more important than others. Like, being a good person is obviously way more crucial than, say, sharing my love of collecting bottle caps (it’s a thing, okay?). So I starred the really important stuff, the non-negotiables.
Then after Refining, I rewrote the whole thing neatly in my notebook, making it all organized and pretty. It felt good to see it all laid out like that. I also added detail to my notes, and made things look neater overall.
Finally, I feel like Reflecting on it. I read through the whole list a few times, and it actually made me feel…hopeful? Like, I have a clearer picture of what I’m looking for, and that feels empowering.I feel good that I took the time to do a deep dive.
It’s not like I’m going to carry this list around and interrogate every guy I meet. But it’s a good reminder to myself of what really matters. And hey, maybe it’ll help me avoid wasting time on guys who are clearly not a good fit. Worth a shot, right?
