Okay, so, things weren’t exactly fireworks in the bedroom lately. It felt…off. Not bad, just not great. And you know, when it comes to sex, “not great” is pretty much the same as “not good enough.” So I started to get, like, low-key worried.
Digging In
First thing I did? Googled it, obviously. “Sex trouble marriage,” I typed, feeling a little silly. Lots of articles, lots of advice, mostly stuff I already kinda knew. Talk to each other, yadda yadda. But it got me thinking, maybe there was something I was missing, not just us as a couple.
So I started paying closer attention. Not just during sex, but before and after too. Like, was I actually in the mood? Or just going through the motions? Was I stressed? Tired? Thinking about laundry?
- Turns out, yeah, I was pretty stressed. Work had been crazy.
- And yeah, I was kinda tired. Who isn’t?
- And, surprise surprise, I was definitely thinking about laundry. And bills. And what to make for dinner.
Experiment Time
So, I decided to try some stuff. Nothing crazy, just little things. For a week, here’s what I did:
- Actually went to bed at a decent time. No more late-night scrolling.
- Did some yoga. Just like, 15 minutes a day. I hate yoga, but it does help with the stress.
- Tried to be more present. This was the hardest part. Like, when we were cuddling on the couch, I tried to actually cuddle, instead of planning my grocery list in my head.
- Tried to be more sexy and actively. Put on makeup, wear beautiful underwear, and take the initiative.
The Results?
Okay, so it wasn’t like a magical switch flipped. But…it helped. I felt more relaxed, more connected, and yeah, more into it. The sex was better, definitely. But more than that, I just felt better. Less like a robot, more like a * be more sexy!
It’s still a work in progress, obviously. Some days are better than others. But I’m trying to keep it up, the paying attention, the de-stressing, the being present. Because honestly, it’s not just about the sex. It’s about feeling good, feeling connected, feeling like * my husband is so happy now!
