Okay, so, about being “enough” for someone… It’s a tough nut to crack, right? I recently gave it a shot, and let me tell you, it was a bit of a rollercoaster. Here’s how it went down.
Getting Started
First off, I decided to just be more present when I was with people. I mean, really listening, you know? Put my phone away, made eye contact – the whole shebang. I started doing this with my friends, family, even the barista at my coffee shop.
Diving Deeper
Then, I started to open up more. I shared some personal stuff – nothing too crazy, just little stories about my life, my day, my weird thoughts. I started to share some stories about my dog, my failed cooking attempts. It felt a bit awkward at first, like I was oversharing, but then something cool happened.
Making Connections
People started opening up to me too! It was like I had unlocked some secret level of friendship. They were telling me about their lives, their struggles, their dreams. I listened, I empathized, I offered advice when I felt I had some. And I asked my girlfriend to go out with me.
Being There
- When my girlfriend had a bad day, I didn’t just say, “That sucks.” I tried to understand why she was feeling down, gave her a hug, and we watched her favorite show together.
- When my buddy was stressed about work, I offered to help him brainstorm some ideas.
- I had a heart-to-heart with my mom and realized I hadn’t been as attentive to her as I could be.
The Results
Honestly, I felt a lot closer to everyone. It was like our relationships got a major upgrade. And I realized, being “enough” isn’t about being perfect or changing who you are. It’s about showing up, being real, and caring. I am working on my emotional intelligence, trying to control my emotions, understand others’ feelings. I know it is a long journey.
The Tough Times
Of course, it wasn’t all smooth sailing. I had moments of doubt. Was I trying too hard? Was I being annoying? There were times when I felt like I was giving a lot and not getting much back. Like that time I helped my friend move all day, and then he bailed on our movie night. That stung a bit. And I had some social anxiety, which made me difficult to connect with others at first.
Learning and Growing
But I kept at it. I realized that relationships are a two-way street, and sometimes, you just have to give without expecting anything in return. It’s not about keeping score. And you know what? I am also facing some life transitions, like changing jobs, which made me feel not good enough. But I learned that it is okay. It’s all about the effort you put in and the genuine connections you make.
So, that’s my story. It’s not a perfect guide or anything, just what I’ve learned from trying to be a better friend, a better partner, a better person. It’s a journey, and I’m still on it. But I think it’s worth it. Being there for someone, truly being there, is one of the best feelings in the world.
