Okay, so I’ve been trying to bring back the spark in my relationship, and it’s been quite a journey. We’d been together for a while, and things just got kinda stale. You know how it is, life gets in the way, and before you know it, you’re just going through the motions.
First thing I did was to sit down and really think about what was missing. I spent a good few evenings just reflecting on the good times we had and where things started to feel off. This wasn’t about blaming each other; it was about understanding.
Then, I started small. I made a conscious effort to do little things that I knew my partner appreciated. Like, I started making their favorite coffee in the morning, just the way they like it. It’s such a simple thing, but it made a difference. They noticed, and it brought a smile to their face.
- I also tried to bring back some of our old routines. We used to have this thing where we’d cook dinner together on Fridays, so I suggested we start doing that again. We picked out some recipes, went grocery shopping together, and had a blast cooking and laughing in the kitchen. It felt like old times.
- Then there’s the whole “no phones at the dinner table” rule. We implemented that, and it’s been a game-changer. We actually talk to each other now, without the constant distraction of social media or emails.
We even started doing this thing where we each write down three things we appreciate about the other person every week. It sounds cheesy, I know, but it’s actually really nice. It helps you focus on the positive and reminds you why you fell in love in the first place.
Another big thing was making time for each other. Not just being in the same room, but actually spending quality time together. We planned a weekend getaway, just the two of us, no distractions. It was amazing. We hiked, talked for hours, and just enjoyed each other’s company. It was like hitting the reset button on our relationship.
It’s a lot of effort.
And I won’t lie, it’s not always easy. There were days when I felt like giving up, but I kept reminding myself why I was doing this. It’s worth it, though. Seeing my partner smile, hearing them laugh, feeling that connection again, and maybe 70% of who I am individually, while the remaining 30% reflects my dynamic as a couple. That’s worth more than anything.
It’s still a work in progress, but I can honestly say that things are better than they’ve been in a long time. We’re communicating better, we’re more affectionate, and we’re actually excited to spend time together again. It’s like we’ve rediscovered each other, and it feels amazing. I don’t know if we can keep this way, but I would like to try.
