Okay, let’s dive right into this personal experiment. The title kinda says it all, but it wasn’t just about that specific thing. It started cause I kept seeing guys online stressing hard about size, like it’s the only thing that matters for good sex. Felt like way too much pressure, honestly.
My Starting Point: Frustration and Curiosity
Honestly? I was kinda skeptical about all the noise online. Felt like half the “tips” were total BS or just products trying to sell you something. I figured, instead of listening to randos, why not actually try some stuff myself and see what sticks? My focus wasn’t on magic size changes – that’s mostly not happening – but on using what I’ve got to its absolute best potential.
The Tools I Gathered
First, I had to get practical. I knew from experience that stamina and confidence were likely key pieces. So, here’s the not-so-sexy toolbox I assembled:
- A Stopwatch App: Sounds clinical, I know. But I wanted hard data on control, not just guessing.
- My Running Sneakers: Yup, regular cardio. Figured better fitness couldn’t hurt the overall energy and endurance.
- Kegel Trainer App: Found a basic free one. This was all about building up those pelvic muscles for better control and harder erections.
- Different Condoms: Snugger ones, ones with extra lube inside, even tried a few different brands just to feel any difference.
- Couple of New Lubes: Grabbed one thick silicone-based and a water-based one.
- An Open-Minded Partner: Crucial. Explained I was trying some stuff to make things better for us and asked if she was cool being part of the experiment. She was game, thank god.
Putting It Into Practice: Week by Week
Alright, action time.
Phase 1: Solo Work (First Two Weeks):
Yeah, the awkward stuff alone. Started running 3 times a week, nothing crazy, just getting the heart pumping. Used the Kegel app religiously – squeezes while brushing teeth, commuting, you name it. It felt weird initially, but started noticing erections felt harder and I could hold off finishing a bit easier during solo sessions. The stopwatch confirmed it – managed to increase solo endurance noticeably. Also practiced visualization – actually thinking about sex while doing the Kegels to strengthen the mind-body link.
Phase 2: Technical Tweaks (Weeks 3 & 4):
Started playing with the “tools” during actual partner sex.
- Pacing: Stopped the jackhammer approach. Seriously slowed things down, focused way more on her reactions, paused a lot. Used my hands and mouth constantly to maintain pleasure during pauses. This was HUGE.
- Angles: Experimented like crazy. Pillow under her hips? Yup. Her legs on my shoulders? Check. Bent over the side of the bed? Tried it. Found that certain positions, especially ones allowing deeper penetration or hitting different spots (like Coital Alignment Technique – basically grinding clits), got WAY stronger reactions than others. It felt less about “in-out length” and more about “where am I hitting?”.
- Condoms: The snugger fit ones actually did seem to keep sensation high while maybe helping me last a touch longer. Extra lubricated ones inside were a plus. The key, honestly, was finding ones that didn’t strangle the damn thing.
- Lube: Even when she seemed ready, adding a bit more lube (the silicone one stayed slick longer) made everything feel smoother and more comfortable for both of us.
The Big Findings
After a solid month of paying intense attention, here’s the raw takeaway:
- Control Beats Size Every Time: Stopping before I felt too close, changing angles, switching to hands/mouth – mastering these pauses was the single biggest game-changer. Made sessions feel much longer and more intense for both of us.
- Communication is Key: Paying attention to her cues and occasionally just straight up asking “Is this spot good?” or “Faster? Slower?” made a world of difference. Sounds obvious, but actually doing it consistently changed everything.
- Stamina Builds Confidence: Knowing I could go longer just removed a layer of performance anxiety.
- Fitness Matters: Seriously, having more stamina overall made the whole experience less exhausting and more enjoyable. Not being winded helps!
- Harder = Better (Sometimes): The Kegels paid off. Stronger erections definitely felt better physically and seemed to hit spots more effectively.
The Size Thing? Honestly, obsessing over numbers messed me up more than it helped. Focusing entirely on using what I have well – the pacing, the pressure, the angles, the communication, the extras – led to way more satisfied sounds and repeat performances than stressing over measurements ever did. “Big enough” turned out to be more about how it was used than any absolute number. Focusing on connection and technique blew the size obsession right out of the water.
